Make Nice Program
From Cassiopedia
This refers to an automatic behavior tending towards avoiding conflict and making repeated concessions or tolerating consistent ill treatment.
A make-nice program is rooted in internal considering. The one running the program thinks that there is virtue in endless patience and that just a little bit more tolerance and patience will change another. This is self-serving firstly because the target is changing another,, secondly because this ignores the likely impossibility of such a task, thus preferring sweet dreams over reality. Further, there is praise to be gained before the self and before the world by displaying apparently endless patience and forebearance, which may be most flattering to a certain type of vanity.
In some cases, it is necessary for survival to avoid escalating conflict. This is not a make nice program. A make nice program is denying the existence of the danger and conflict and pretending that ignoring it or smoothing it over will make it go away. A make nice program combines elements of vanity and wishfulness.